Although many sex therapists report a significant percentage of requests for consultations, loss of libido (sexual desire) is a common phenomenon commonly seen in both women and men and is not the subject of a routine consultation with the sexual psychologist.
That said, the process of consulting a sex therapist is nonetheless more difficult for men than it is for women.
Factors and causes that may explain lack of desire
The first thing to consider is whether you are happy in your relationship. Do you have any doubts or concerns that could be the real reason for your loss of sexual desire?
Relational problems are among the most common causes of loss of libido.
The ups and downs usually coincide with the beginning or end of a relationship or with major changes in life, such as pregnancy, menopause or illness.
These factors also include relationship problems, depression, stress, anxiety, and exhaustion, as well as some medications used to treat mood disorders (anti-depressants) that can also result in decreased female libido.
But the decline or loss of libido may indicate an underlying medical problem, such as a reduction in hormone levels that needs to be taken into consideration.
An important thing to consider is whether the problem is a performance problem that makes sex difficult or unsatisfactory. For example, many men have problems with ejaculation or erectile dysfunction, and women may have painful intercourse due to involuntary contraction of the muscles around the vagina before penetration.
What is also important is that the sexual desire of women fluctuates naturally over the years, age criteria is also to be taken into account.
The symptoms of libido
Many women report no longer having any interest in any type of sexual activity, including masturbation.
Others explain that they never or rarely have fantasies or sexual thoughts.
If you are worried about the lack of sexual activity or your lack of fantasies and your lack of desire, experts say that the frequency of sex has nothing to do with sexual desire or satisfaction, and that there are different ways that this can be increased.
Do you find that your lack of sexual desire becomes distressing and that it affects your relationship? It can be a good idea to ask for help.
Some solutions can be very concrete (such as taking hormones, improving the sensual communication in the relationship, the use of sexual fantasies, the search for creativity) ... Several different guides or experts in sexology can accompany you on your journey.
