Could we live without sex but not without fantasies???
You might say this is paradoxical and that fantasizing is a healthy and normal way to explore one's sexuality and to imagine things that could be impossible in real life. Yet, some people experience feelings of guilt when they indulge in fantasies, while others live out their fantasies with mortification, knowing that they cannot satisfy them all. But everyone can fantasize, and it turns out there's nothing wrong with feeding our erotic imaginations.
It's normal to fantasize. In fact, 90% of women do, including fantasies about the stars, throuples, candaulism, pegging, fetishism and more.
So, let's start fantasizing!
The brain, which makes us want to seduce and enjoy, is ultimately our largest sexual organ. You need to understand what excites you: who, what, where, when and how.
Studies have found that women fantasize more about sex in a specific location or with a stranger, while men fantasize more about anal sex and oral sex. Men and women were about equal when it came to fantasizing about group sex.
Keep in mind that everyone's fantasies are different. For some, it may be imagining specific people. For others, they will imagine particular body parts, conversations, places, scenarios. Everyone fantasizes differently and the game is to learn to inhibit all the distractions that block sexual desire in the heart of the brain. Don't think you have to fantasize a certain way for it to be "right." Just let your brain sift through the thoughts, images, words, conversations that excite you.
Many of us tend to feel too shy about admitting our sexual fantasies. But experts say a vibrant fantasy life is an important part of healthy sexuality and should be encouraged through the realm of imagination, to break the monotony without becoming obsessive.
Because everyone has fantasies...
You can also try erotic books, magazines, artwork, and movies for inspiration. However, you can also immerse yourself in “love hotels” intended exclusively to awaken fantasies. This kind of establishment based on the Japanese model, has been very successful since the release of the film "50 Shades of Grey" (one Parisian establishment offers that you can live out your fantasies in any one of around twenty themed rooms, if you fancy a weekend away!)
If the subject of your fantasies makes you feel uncomfortable, remember that thinking about something and acting on it, really are worlds apart. The advantage of fantasies is that you are free to think, be and feel whatever you want, because there are no consequences. Fantasizing should be a positive experience, if you feel like it's getting out of control or the thoughts are getting intrusive and scary, banish them from your mind. Remember: you are the director of your own film.
So don't worry, your fantasies are most likely to be completely normal, and in most cases, a lifetime of rich sexual fantasy can actually improve your romantic relationship rather than weaken it. Now a question arises: do you really have to fulfil your fantasies? Or just leave them in your imagination...
