Infidelity: a widespread reality
Is dating a married man a good idea?
Could love sometimes push us to try to explain the inexplicable? Could it push us down a very complicated path, in order to satisfy a fantasy?
One thing is certain, it is never easy to go out with a man who is already in a relationship.
According to some surveys, up to 15% of married women will have an affair at some point during their marriage. That's about 4.5 million women in the United States alone.
More than half of men and more than a third of women say they have been unfaithful, a behavior that has been on the rise since the 1970s.
What this means is that there is a real possibility that you will have a chance of dating a married man at some point.
Here are some things to consider before deciding whether to do so, or not
One of the things women seem to like about dating married men is the physical passion that is often present. It might be great for a few nights of lustful passion, but there won't be any real emotional attachment. Some guys like the idea of romance without any of the feelings, but what they don't realize is that things are so much better when the real feelings are shared.
Don't get the wrong idea:
"We're going to divorce." Debbie has been dating a married man for over ten years now, and he always tells her that he and his wife are about to divorce. Documents have been filed, not filed, misplaced, moved, refiled, nearly finalized, withdrawn, but they are still married. So, what’s going on? People often think it's immoral to date someone who is married, but if they are "going through a divorce" they can justify it, simply by saying that this man is at the point of divorcing.
We don’t want to scare you, but know that many murders are committed as a result of "love triangles". These crimes of passion happen quickly, often without warning. What happens is you think everything is fine, his wife doesn't know anything, but the man then confesses what he did, or the wife finds out in some other way. In reality, anger and jealousy can quickly boil over and spiral out of control. That's not to say that dating a married man will make you a murder victim, but you should know that it's a risk, no matter how remote this might be.
In Hong-Kong, people don’t joke about infidelity, a law stipulates that a woman can assassinate her husband if she is the victim of adultery... Goodness, that is really scary!!!
There is another thing to consider before dating a married man, and that is your motivation. What attracts you to a married man? Is it a feeling of control or a lack of control? Is it out of anger? Is it the thrill? Or did you just fall in love with your married man, and the feelings are out of control?
Whatever your motivation, ask yourself if it could be satisfied by dating a single man. If not, you may need some coaching to see if there are deeper issues.
Whether or not you decide to start dating a married man, you need to consider several different factors. It's best to be properly informed before making a decision, and the points above should help you make a better decision for yourself.
