A few small numbers to start with, in order to bring the pressure down... if there is any pressure, that is.
Renowned scientists Gayle Brewer and Colin Hendrie claim that 92% of women fake it to please their partner...
So, let's talk about it!
We are not all equal where orgasm is concerned, however, during sexual relations, everyone should ideally find their pleasure and doing that is not always easy. Even some men manage to fake orgasm, although generally speaking, this is a lot more difficult to achieve.
According to a recent study by the IFOP, dating from 2019, nearly two-thirds of French women and a tenth of French people said they had already faked an orgasm during their sex life. We can clearly see that the need to fake orgasm remains, on the whole, a very feminine practice.
However, many women do not always like the experience of feeling like they have to fool their partner. This is despite the desire to be themselves and to maintain self-confidence, so often, faking it remains a problem.
In the majority of cases, the main reason given by women who fake orgasm, is not wanting to upset their partner and avoid the sterile discussions that could follow. Some women also fake orgasm to retain their partner and to try to stop them being unfaithful. Others again love their partner but find the sex painful.
Even if women sometimes have good reasons to fake orgasm, several psychologists and sexologists have published various studies on the faking of pleasure and explain that we should not necessarily be upset about this.
There are of course other reasons, so what about sexual sincerity?
Quite simply because some days we make love more to please the other person, and therefore the main question is: should we accept having sex when we don't feel like it?
A relationship that lasts too long, and where boredom reigns, and yes it happens...
For new couples, the fear that the other will think that we are a "bad lay..."
What should we think of it?
Of course, there are pros and cons.
Sometimes you can fake orgasm, and it will have no consequences for your relationship, as long as flattering your ego remains exceptional. Because in this case, making your partner believe that you are experiencing a moment of enjoyment can help him feel at ease and find his own pleasure too, even additional motivation so that he can give the best of himself.
On the other hand, and this is where you have to think carefully about what you are doing, because faking it regularly in moments that are not as intense and pleasant as you would have him believe, can lead your partner up the wrong path, even lead him to repeat the same mistakes in spite of himself. In this case, it is better to discuss things openly to avoid ending up with a drop in desire.
We must not forget that the quest for the Holy Grail is above all about shared pleasures. Whether vaginal or clitoral, orgasm remains the very symbol of the longevity of couples. You can experience a lot of pleasure without reaching orgasm.
OHYES Ladies! Despite self-proclaimed symbols of fulfilling sexuality, orgasm is self-surrender and where there is discomfort, there is no pleasure.
Obviously female and male sexuality is also surrounded by many received ideas, it is high time to learn to express our feelings and moreover make it a personal matter.
True mystery of female enjoyment, orgasm still has a lot to reveal... and don't forget that "your appetite grows with eating".
