By far the most common way for a woman to consistently achieve orgasm is direct or indirect clitoral stimulation. Before addressing this topic, I think it would be useful to share some information about the clitoris with you.
The clitoris is located just at the entrance to the vagina and behind the labia minora. For most women, it is a small piece of flesh that contains a high concentration of nerve endings, that make it very sensitive. It is often covered with a clitoral hood. Many people do not realize that only a small part of the clitoris is actually visible. The rest of the organ is surrounded by the rest of the reproductive system and extends to the bottom of the pubic bone.
Two things are particularly interesting about the clitoris.
First, all mammalian females have a clitoris. This is interesting because the only function of the clitoris, at least according to biologists, is sexual pleasure. This means that humans are not the only ones who love sex!
Second, the clitoris is made of the same material as the penis. In fact, in humans, the clitoris becomes a penis in its own right after exposure of the embryo to testosterone in the uterus. Like the penis, the clitoris fills with blood and becomes erect during sexual arousal. The clitoral hood is essentially the same as the foreskin of a penis.
The only real difference between a clitoris and a penis (besides the location in the body) seems to be that the penis is also used to urinate while the clitoris is not.
Having said that, it is important to realize that the clitoris is really similar to a penis in size, though most of it cannot be seen. Vibrations in the pelvic area caused by intercourse may stimulate nerve endings in the invisible part of the clitoris, which can also cause orgasms.
What many people do not realize about the clitoris is that the penis alone cannot usually stimulate it. Because of its position in the female body, the ability of the penis to provide rhythmic stimulation to the clitoris is extremely difficult. This means that traditional sex usually has to be coupled with clitoral stimulation.
The question is therefore how to engage in clitoral stimulation
Some male partners take the approach that women should be responsible for the stimulation themselves, which has always seemed a bit unfair to me, since the woman provides him with the stimulation he needs to reach orgasm. However, it is one way to deal with things.
The advantages of clitoral orgasm
Another method is what I like to call multi-tasking. Versatility essentially means that the man does more than one thing at a time. For example, he can penetrate the vagina, looking for the G-spot (or not) while stimulating the clitoris in one way or another (we will discuss that a little later). If the couple wants to reach orgasm at the same time or at around the same time, this is clearly the best option.
Other couples I met had an alternative approach, such as working with the Tantra, which involves having sex in a spiritual manner. It is also possible that one person reaches orgasm at a time. Depending on how well each person reaches orgasm, this may be a possibility, but this is not usually the most satisfactory approach for most couples.
The best thing about clitoral orgasms is that they can be achieved in different ways. Because the whole area is very sensitive, experimenting with these types of orgasms can also add interest and excitement to sex lives that may have become less enthusiastic over time.
And the key is to experiment because different women prefer different types of clitoral stimulation. While some prefer direct stimulation, others find it uncomfortable and prefer that the area around the clitoris be stimulated instead. Women who masturbate will generally have a much better idea of what kind of stimulation they prefer than women who do not.
What happens during clitoral orgasm
Before concluding this article, let's talk about what happens during a clitoral orgasm. As I mentioned above, the clitoris is filled up with the blood and becomes straight like a penis. This means that it is usually easier to spot when a woman is excited. Because the clitoris does not need to be erect to have sex, clitoral orgasms will only take place if the woman is excited properly. This means that some type of foreplay is usually a requirement. When the clitoris is stimulated repeatedly, it becomes more engorged with blood, which further increases its sensitivity. With further stimulation, a point is reached where all the tension in the area has to be relaxed and this point is considered orgasm.
Let’s not forget the stimulating positions, could some positions be more effective than others? Follow our file on the Kamasutra positions.
