My family is falling apart… Is there a solution?
I am going to get down to explaining the principle and the method of systemic family therapy to you... Because, "I believe that we cannot do better than by seeking to become better, and nothing is more pleasant than by being fully aware of our improvement…“ (Ok, that’s not from me… But from dear Socrates!)
A team principle
Within this therapy, the family is defined as a “system” (hence the term systemic family therapy). However, sometimes, this system is shaken up and this can lead to a malfunction, especially with respect to communication.
The goal is then to accompany the individual who is suffering within his or her family, while making him aware of the cause of the problem and thus to find alternatives allowing him to redefine his role and his functions within his own family. Of course, the other members of the family are also accompanied, so that they accept the redefinition of the roles and functions of each family member. In any case, the evolution for each member of the family is necessary!
A fashionable method
This systemic family therapy is a method of psychotherapy, making it possible to promote communication between members of the same family (Yes, I repeat myself and insist on COMMUNICATION, the watchword of a successful life together!). The evolution of the family atmosphere depends on family events as well as the family history of the group. Sessions include dialogue between family members, as well as between family members and the therapist. These discussions serve to improve the understanding of the target problem, for a future resolution of it.
The goal is therefore to simply “agree”! This requires a reorganization of the family functioning, in order to find a new stability. The crisis situation will therefore be overcome, while taking into account the individual evolution of each member.
The course of the therapy… No frills!
First, the therapist must define a framework. But what does that mean?
The framework is based on the frequency and number of sessions and the support of one or more therapists. This working environment is also modulated via the summoning or eviction of one or more family members (depending on the sessions). During some sessions, cameras or one-way glass may be used. (Of course, always with the agreement of those concerned.)
When the framework is set, the session can then begin! The therapist will take on the role of mediator, making it possible to promote the expression and wishes of each member of the family.
Tools such as family trees can be used to trace the history of the family. In particular, the education transmitted by the parents, the values, the principles transmitted...
In itself, communication can only be improved during the sessions. However, it is necessary to take into account the individual opinions and viewpoints of each member of the family, so that each individual is not suffocated by the family group and so that all voices are heard.
At the end of each session, the therapist will do a summary with his colleagues and or supervisor, in order to see the progress of the family. The therapist will then make a summary of the session with the family, proposing possible lines of thought and missions to be carried out for the next session. Go, do homework!
So... What do you think the solution is?... COMMUNICATION, period!