It's never easy to forget your ex. Let's assume that there is no recipe for not being in love anymore, just as there is no recipe for falling in love. The question that often arises is why do we still love them so much?
At first we fall in love with that person and sometimes it seems to happen in an instant, other times it takes longer, and other times you don't even realize how much you were in love until the moment that you both have taken different paths.
And it’s at this moment of realization that the question torments you: why I am still in love with my ex? There is no easy answer to this question, but let's take a look at some things you should consider.
What questions to ask?
A good first step is to change the question you are asking yourself. Instead of asking yourself why you are still in love with your ex, try asking why you miss the relationship. What can happen is that you miss the relationship itself, not the person you were with. Sometimes, there is something heart-warming about being in a relationship and going through a routine. Once this routine comes to an end, it causes a lot of stress. It is not stress that causes feelings of affection, but stress makes it easier to misidentify what your true feelings are. So take the time to understand how you really feel before making any assumptions.
You are not alone...
Assuming you have determined that you do still love your ex, then you should know that you are not alone. Like I said before, long before he was your ex-partner, there was the relationship, and he was the man you fell in love with. It is very rare that both people in a relationship fall in love with each other at the same time; one or the other will feel the love first. The same goes for falling in love. Just as your ex fell in love with you, you still have strong feelings for him.
At this point you have two options. Either you are hoping that your ex is going to fall in love with you again, or you are grieving the loss of the relationship. Only you know what the best solution is for you and your situation. Consider your motivation for reviving this love story. Do your best to be honest with yourself and see what is really going on.
If you reunite...
If you ultimately decide that it's best to try and work things out and your ex falls for you again, then you need to be prepared and to take the necessary steps to make it happen. Remember that your ex will change their feelings at a different rate than yours. It means you need to give them the time they need to give the relationship another shot.
On the other hand, if you decide that it's better to move on and let your feelings fade away for your ex, then you need to start doing this as soon as you can. You will need to bounce back from heartache. The sooner you get over these feelings and move on, the better. That way you won't be wondering "why I'm still in love with my ex" anymore. And you will evolve towards a better and brighter future! And you might even tell yourself that you’ve finally turned the page on a heavy chapter in your life.
