It's not a scoop! Who hasn’t felt embarrassment and shame at some point when going to the doctor for an examination, or when undressing in a changing room?
The feeling that makes us want to hide ourselves from others: modesty!
Modesty means being shy and ashamed, it is the fear of judgment, the fear of getting naked, of revealing one's being and even your feelings. According to some researchers, sexuality and eroticism could not survive without modesty. For others, it is a question of not confusing it with sexual shyness. Unlike the exhibitionist, the modest person hides their sexuality, their desire, or their body, for multiple reasons that can be moral, cultural or often, religious. Value systems, which vary from one culture to another, quite naturally influence individual behavior and beliefs.
But at what age does modesty begin?
According to psychologists, modesty begins at the age of 7-8 year’s old, namely from our childhood, but the idea that we have of it evolves over time. In reality, modesty refers to our fear of seeing our body take over our mind. In certain morals and philosophies such as in Chinese philosophy, modesty is a kind of filial piety, a virtue, a feeling of consideration and respect for one's parents and ancestors. Modesty then becomes an inculcation.
Today, modesty becomes a defense mechanism, our instinct reacts on its own and we blush in front of other people.
Is modesty a corny thing?
NOPE! Whether we think it old-fashioned or not, modesty is a fundamental aspect and the perceptions of society have changed. Modesty, which was a moral strength, is now considered a complex, a weakness. You are even judged as an introverted person. How bizarre! In itself, this is not a problem, but for many women, being modest leads them into more complex terrain, where their sexuality is altered.
When it comes to nudity and sexuality, it is quite common to feel modest, even for a woman who feels comfortable in her head and in her body. Getting naked in front of someone else isn't easy.
There's nothing corny about being modest, but "Being yourself in a world that's continually trying to make you someone else, is the greatest accomplishment of all" (Ralph Waldo Emerson).
Fight against complexes
On closer inspection, few women are perfect. We have to learn to accept ourselves as we are.
Never apologize for expressing how you feel, because it's like apologizing for being yourself.
Enjoy yourself!
We cannot advise you enough to take care of yourself, pamper your body with care, make time for relaxation, enjoy sport (read our article on yoga). Cook and eat food that appeals to you. Wear whatever clothes you want.
You can set challenges, even though Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither are we.
Be less introverted. And don't forget; where modesty can become embarrassing is when it creates frustration within a relationship. There is a happy medium between excessive modesty and exhibitionism.
