Think about YOUR pleasure! Yes, a little selfishness is required, ladies! It has never been stated that your partner's pleasure comes before yours. If it is not easy for you to reach orgasm, you might as well devote yourself to what turns you on! Of course, your partner's pleasure will be fulfilled after yours, or at the same time. Everything can be played out and can be delectable! Let us enjoy the fusion of this union!
Letting go is key
Carpe diem! Let's live in the present moment, nothing else exists except your feelings and his. Put your brain on “pause,” so that you can give yourself over to haunting excitement. Your body will guide you to 7th heaven! This means letting go of thinking of what you have to do tomorrow, the shopping list, the car repair, the kids, money and anything else. If we say that being in the moment should be just that, you will enjoy your moments to the full.
If you need to wind down, then take a shower, simply sit for a moment and relax or maybe ask or offer a massage to begin to wind down.
Many people, men and women, suffer from some kind of sexual anxiety. This applies whether a person’s partner is a new one, or you have been with a partner for many years. Some of these complexes are related to our own bodies, how we look, how we feel about ourselves. But remember, if you are about to have sex with someone (or indeed, to make love), the other person is there because they desire you. Go with their thoughts rather than your own! Bear in mind also that statistically, most men have complexes too, In some reports, over 30% of young men had some kind of complex about their genitals. So feeling awkward? Maybe they are too!
Perhaps our best piece of advice is to concentrate on your own pleasure! Many people get hung up as to whether they are going to be “up to the mark” to please their partner. If you think about it logically, that is likely to cause blockages before you even start! So, letting go also simply means acceptance of the fact that you are lucky enough to be in this position with this other person through your own choice, and are going to enjoy the moment, each moment, as it happens.
Letting go also continues during the act, until the beginning of the orgasm begins.
Express yourself!
In the movies, great passionate scenes get played out and there is rarely any talking, just a lot of kissing, turning about and humping, usually with crescendo-ing music. But life can be much easier, more fun and more comfortable with some natural self-expression, Often, people have sex quite “ blindly,” without really knowing what pleases the other person. So, use all your assets of communication and that means listening as well as speaking.
Listening; you can usually tell how much your partner is enjoying themselves by their breathing and also by the noises they may be making. Listen also to your own body, This consciousness of feelings- either good or bad, can help you encourage your partner to do more of what you like, and less of what you don’t.
Talking: When your partner does something you like, make sure they know all about it. Don’t be embarrassed. A simple “ ooh I like that,” or “ touch me there again,” can actually be a great help. Remember often men aren’t any more sure than women are and often they feel like they have to act the man. So, help them out where needs be!
Express yourself! Moaning is good as long as its natural moaning! In addition to the indications intended for your partner, talking and moaning can turn you on!
Your pelvis can also move in different ways; by undulation, by making geometric shapes or numbers for example! Find your favourite positions where you are most aroused, allowing orientation to sensitive areas of your vagina.
Genital exploration
Masturbation, masturbation, masturbation! If you don't discover your own clitoris, vagina and other erogenous zones, you can't know yourself genitally speaking, so how do you tell your partner where to go, if you don't know yourself? Moreover, the more your sex is stimulated, the more it is sensitive and reactive! According to Doctor Leleu, if the vagina is not solicited before your sex life begins, it is then "asleep,“ so it takes several years to wake it up! An “awakened” woman can then enjoy sex as quickly as a man! So, in your spare time, try some self investigation, you will find you are much more ready for your sexual encounter with a partner and much more relaxed along with it.
