The TAO of Sexuality

Multiple Male orgasm without ejaculation is not a myth.

The first sex manuals came from China.

Sex manuals are concerned with the best ways to make love, to prolong the sexual act, to have fun, to have children and to maintain good health. These manuals are easy to use and contain precise illustrations. They are intended for beginners, and the advice is aimed at both men and women alike.

“The Tao of sexuality consists of healing, increasing and the transformation of sexual energy. Women learn to release the energy and power of their ovaries, men the power of their sperm, to circulate these energies consciously in the body.” So writes Maitreyi Piontek, the pupil of Mantak Chia, in the Tao of the Woman.

The sexual union symbolises the unity of the earth and the heavens.

Like tantrism, The Chinese Tao has produced many writings on sexuality, that describe a kind of “internal alchemy”. Some of the complex sexual techniques described in these ancient works, are also incorporated into techniques to achieve immortality. Here again, these are written in symbolic texts. Taoism is based on a sense of unity with the world, living in the unity of the yin and yang, the masculine-and feminine double polarity. It should be noted that originally, the term "yin" referred to everything related to sex; it is only later that a purely feminine meaning was given to it. The expression "yin Tao" means "principles of the sexual life". The development of this consciousness is conducted using energy techniques such as qi gong, massage, breathing, meditation and working on sounds.

History

From the 3rd century BCE in ancient China, Sex manuals were already in circulation: collections of instructions for a sex life in accordance with the principles of the Tao. The expression "Tao of the art of loving" refers to this way of life.

Since very ancient times, the Chinese have given special importance to their sexuality, considering that the genitals were the places of residence of a considerable storage of energy. They thought it was possible to unify body and mind, to achieve longevity and immortality. They have always considered that sexuality is as essential to life as is breathing. According to the Tao, man must eat, drink, rest and work sufficiently, but not too excessively, to live in harmony with the universe. He must also have a satisfying sex life. For the Taoists, there are certain principles to respect in terms of sexuality, in order to live in good health and to find the harmony between mind and body.

The Tao of the art of loving appeared in ancient China at a time when society evolved from matriarchy to patriarchy, men and women were then on an equal standing, as well as being sexual partners. Sexuality is never considered a sin, but a natural act.

The 3 essential principles

Taoism is concerned with the pleasure of the woman. The role of the man is to guide her to this pleasure, which includes the control of his arousal, the control of his ejaculation, and a well- developed sense of observation.

Many symbols were then assigned as representations of the man, “The White Tiger”, with the woman represented by the Green Dragon.

There are three major principles of the sexual Tao:

- The control of ejaculation

The man needs to hold his erection as long as possible without ejaculation.

- The concepts of the male orgasm and of ejaculation are two different things.

We should not believe that ultimate pleasure is always due to ejaculation. The Taoists have always thought that it was possible to have fun and have an orgasm without ejaculation.

-  The importance of female orgasm

The female orgasm is of prime importance. At the beginning of the sexual act, the man has to control himself, so as not to take pleasure until his partner is well onto their own path of personal pleasure.

The Practice

If the basis of the sexual Tao is the man’s business, the woman also has her role to play: that of the adviser and the instructor. It is also the importance of her role as an instructor, that was highlighted in the various books dealing with sexuality, where the woman often talks with the man to teach him the mysteries of the sexual Tao.

The Love positions

There are 4 basic positions:

  1. The close attachment
  2. The unicorn‘s horn
  3. The intimate union
  4. The fish sunning itself

And there are 26 variations of these positions such as:

  • The dance of the 2 phoenixes
  • Somersaulting dragons
  • The leaping white tiger
  • Butterflies in love
  • The cleaving cicadas

The female art of kissing

Rub your nose against that of your partners, feel the spark of energy that this contact creates.

Put your tongue into your partner's mouth.

Massage their tongue with yours

The Control of ejaculation

-Learn to retain energy

People who practice this “Sexual Kung Fu” should aim for as infrequent ejaculation as possible. Sun Su Miao, one of the greatest doctors in ancient China who reached the respectable age of 101, only ejaculated after making love a hundred times.

He advised his patients to look for non-ejaculatory orgasm but admitted the occasional release of sperm, depending on the age of the subject:

A 20-year-old man can ejaculate once every four days.

A 30-year-old man can ejaculate once every eight days.

A 40-year-old man can ejaculate once every ten days.

A 50 year- old man can ejaculate once every twenty days.

A man aged 60 or over should not ejaculate at all ...

- Holding back on ejaculation

To restrain ejaculation, a man can use various methods of “holding back”. One of the most effective methods is to leave the vagina of his partner at the time that ejaculation begins and to press his penis with his fingers at the lower level of the glans for a few seconds. He can then resume his penetration as long as the desire to ejaculate has passed. The act of love can thus be extended to give greater pleasure ...

The contraction of the perineum (sphincter) with inverted breathing techniques (from the abdomen), allows the control of the spasms of the prostate.

The true control of ejaculation is primarily an internal feeling, so the use of imagination is also needed, to create mental diversions and to decrease excitement. Breathing deeply without gasping is an effective way to achieve control. At this stage, the fusion of the two partners breaths becomes a way of maximizing and discovering internal power; when the man breathes out the woman breathes in, both visualizing this continual circle of breathing in their own private world together.

The Tao of sexuality: this Zen sexuality brings a little magic into our everyday

lives, and offers comfort, and hope.

And, no worries about breaking down! It is a real boost for limp libidos!